I see this all the time. Girl frustrated with guy in her life because he lies, cheats, refuses to commit, can't be tied down, won't listen, or is just an all around douchebag. Girl vents. Girl is told by friends "well they only do what we ALLOW them to do." Girl agrees, gets herself all worked up, stomps off resolved to not take his shit anymore. Seems like the story should end there, but now you've alienated the man. He probably doesn't even realized he's done wrong, and there you are all empowered - but without said guy - and you really liked him!
So, here is the dilemma. How do you "disallow" men from doing the shit they do and I don't mean some grand How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days Two Can Play that Game scheme either. Because. Ok. Some of them ARE douchebags who aren't worth your time, but then there are some great guys who can be rehabilitated. That just do. Stuff. That irks us. And I don't want the solution to be to change the man, after all if you like him it should be for who he is. So ladies and gentlemen. I need your insights please. What are your dealbreakers? When do you let it go and when is it worth saving? And gentlemen, if you only do what we "allow" you to, what'll make you want to stop?
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